(2018-02-20) This Is How To Be Your Best Self 3 Secrets Backed By Research

This Is How To Be Your Best Self: 3 Secrets Backed By Research - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

How should you treat you? (vs Golden Rule for treating others)

Treat yourself as if you were someone you were responsible for helping.

When a friend fails, you don’t feel threatened. You can easily access a part of your physiology: the care-giving system

When we feel threatened we can’t access the care-giving system. Our most immediate and strongest reaction is this fight or flight response. We fight the problem — which is ourselves. We attack ourselves, we judge ourselves, or we feel really isolated.

1) To Make Better Decisions, Think Of Your Best Friend

“What advice would I give to someone else in this situation?”:

2) For Health, Think About Fido

(People feed their dog better than themselves, and make sure they administer meds.)

3) For Happiness, Think About Grandmom

The best way to counteract self-criticism, therefore, is to understand it, have compassion for it, and then replace it with a kinder response

Imagine someone who loves you (like Grandmom) saying the kind words.